Well, well, well, it surely has been a long time since I have been here! I decided to visit some of my old favorites tonight, and I was so inspired by some of Stacey's writings, I thought it was time to drop in for a visit.
Let me begin by acknowledging that it is now my birthday. I was born on September 2, 1966 at 12:02 a.m., so for 25 minutes, I have been 41 years old. Holy crap!! I had a lot of trouble--but a lot of fun (tattoo-heelloooo!) for my 40th last year, and it is not getting any easier. Not harder, but not easier either. I think it is because the youngest I specifially remember my mom being was 43 and she seemed OLD. Capital "O" old. Maybe it was seven kids. Maybe it was smoking. Maybe it was just my perception. Maybe it was her--maybe she did live like and old lady: bridge parties, dinners at church, stuff like that. I guess there is just a part of me that feels old, too. But jeez, I hope my kids don't perceive me as old like that! hmmm
Here's a mind blower: to anyone that does not already know, my oldest daughter has a boyfriend. If you had told me that I would have permitted this when she was only 13, I would have said you were an fool and I was an idiot. Well, shut my mouth--I must be a idiot. Although I am not sure that I could have done anything to prevent the turns of events, I suppose I could have forbidden her from seeing him, I have not taken that path. Rather, since he lives a mere 2 doors down the street, and since DH and I are friends and neighbors to DC's parents, we have opted to keep this a rather "controlled experiment", if you will. DC and AJ are rarely left alone or unsupervised. His mom and I keep very close tabes on what they do, and keep each other informed as well. Yeah, it's meddling, but DC is only 14, AJ is 13, and it is a unique opportunity to "train" them about this whole dating thing. Don't be too clingy, don't forget to call when you say you will, don't presume, don't nag, stuff like that. It may be quite awkward when/if things do go south, but we are trying to help them avoid some landmines. So far so good--but this is definitely one of those things that help make a mom feel old!!! Sure, I had crushes when I was 13--there was sure not anyone to return the feelings. In 8th grade, we mostly did group things--oddly enough, I was part of one of the 3 couples in our class. Me and Jeff Peters, Kathy F and Carl H., and Matt S. and Stephanie S. How funny that the little fat girl was one of so few with a boyfriend! Okay, so Jeff became one of the 3, yes 3 guys in my life who turned out to be gay!! I like to say I ruined them for all other women. ha ha
I digress. So, yes I did have crushes, but it sure seems like these things go from hi, how are you to, now we are boyfriend and girlfriend. Jeez. whatever happened to dating around. which is even funnier b/c our young couple hardly ever go anywhere!! Ah well. love is bliss at any age. And painful, yes?
Well, better sign out for now. I may just make this a habit! Love to all!
Let me begin by acknowledging that it is now my birthday. I was born on September 2, 1966 at 12:02 a.m., so for 25 minutes, I have been 41 years old. Holy crap!! I had a lot of trouble--but a lot of fun (tattoo-heelloooo!) for my 40th last year, and it is not getting any easier. Not harder, but not easier either. I think it is because the youngest I specifially remember my mom being was 43 and she seemed OLD. Capital "O" old. Maybe it was seven kids. Maybe it was smoking. Maybe it was just my perception. Maybe it was her--maybe she did live like and old lady: bridge parties, dinners at church, stuff like that. I guess there is just a part of me that feels old, too. But jeez, I hope my kids don't perceive me as old like that! hmmm
Here's a mind blower: to anyone that does not already know, my oldest daughter has a boyfriend. If you had told me that I would have permitted this when she was only 13, I would have said you were an fool and I was an idiot. Well, shut my mouth--I must be a idiot. Although I am not sure that I could have done anything to prevent the turns of events, I suppose I could have forbidden her from seeing him, I have not taken that path. Rather, since he lives a mere 2 doors down the street, and since DH and I are friends and neighbors to DC's parents, we have opted to keep this a rather "controlled experiment", if you will. DC and AJ are rarely left alone or unsupervised. His mom and I keep very close tabes on what they do, and keep each other informed as well. Yeah, it's meddling, but DC is only 14, AJ is 13, and it is a unique opportunity to "train" them about this whole dating thing. Don't be too clingy, don't forget to call when you say you will, don't presume, don't nag, stuff like that. It may be quite awkward when/if things do go south, but we are trying to help them avoid some landmines. So far so good--but this is definitely one of those things that help make a mom feel old!!! Sure, I had crushes when I was 13--there was sure not anyone to return the feelings. In 8th grade, we mostly did group things--oddly enough, I was part of one of the 3 couples in our class. Me and Jeff Peters, Kathy F and Carl H., and Matt S. and Stephanie S. How funny that the little fat girl was one of so few with a boyfriend! Okay, so Jeff became one of the 3, yes 3 guys in my life who turned out to be gay!! I like to say I ruined them for all other women. ha ha
I digress. So, yes I did have crushes, but it sure seems like these things go from hi, how are you to, now we are boyfriend and girlfriend. Jeez. whatever happened to dating around. which is even funnier b/c our young couple hardly ever go anywhere!! Ah well. love is bliss at any age. And painful, yes?
Well, better sign out for now. I may just make this a habit! Love to all!
posted by Justa at
9/01/2007 10:25:00 PM
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